Time, commitments, and reducing stress

Posted by on August 10, 2014 in Uncategorized | 4 comments

wristwatch-407096_640Is my time more valuable than yours?

Absolutely not.  Just as your time is not more valuable than mine.  I strongly believe that everyone’s time is equally important, whether you are the Queen or a homeless person.

Which brings me to the subject of commitments.

 When you make a commitment, do you honour it and show up or do you decide you can’t be bothered, or something “better” comes along so you decide to do that instead.

 Do you bother to let the person you made the commitment with know?  Or are you too busy and you don’t have time? Or do you decide their time is not as important as yours?

Yes, I am on a rant.  I’ve spent a lot of time recently waiting for people who do not show up for whatever reason, several of whom I’ve been extending a special favour to.  I feel in those circumstances that my goodwill is being abused. Not a nice feeling. 

Then again, at the end of the day, it’s their loss, not mine.

Thankfully those people are in the minority and I send a big thank you out to those of you who show up and participate fully.  80% of success, as Woody Allen says, is showing up.

The Dalai Lama said that one way to reduce stress is to always be early for appointments.

Honouring your commitments and being on time will reduce stress. 


  1. I’m with ya on this one Christine. I find it unbelievable that people set appointments and don’t show up or are LATE with no call to let you know. It’s about respect for people’s time. I once had a very good friend who was at least a 1/2 hour late for everything and finally I had to stop asking them to bring things to dinner parties, or share a cab to an event, or go for hikes, or meet at a movie. It spoiled parts of our relationship. Somewhere in there I think late disrespectful people of time are looking for attention. It only takes a few seconds to make the call, send a text or email to be respectful of time.



    • I’ve heard it said too Connie that chronic lateness is a form of attention-seeking. As Patricia says, it then becomes a habit.

  2. I too have a friend who is ALWAYS late. I know that she walks long hours but I am pretty sure that lateness has become a habit. I struggle to know how to handle it. I see it as a form of disrespect even though I know this person is caring and thoughtful in other ways.
    Like Connie, I have to adapt how I interact with her which puts a strain on the relationship. Thanks for the rant Christine.

    • I feel it’s disrespectful too and a case for setting firm boundaries – sometimes easier said than done.

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